Friday

Confessions - Keeping my values.

A question was recently brought up on the napcp forum asking if anyone had ever turned down working with a client because of values or beliefs. I have and I'm proud of it. I thought I would share the story with you...


We all believe in different things and I believe we should respect each other's views and be grateful that we are allowed to have them... In MOST cases! In this one I said no.

I was contacted last summer for what would have been my biggest client EVER times 10. They were opening a chain of coffee stands and wanted a session done for every girl who would be employed with them for the company website. They wanted an interactive site where consumers could see who worked at what stand. Have you guessed it yet? This was one of those bikini or lingerie coffee stands (but they wanted to create a mass chain) and I would be shooting all the mini boudoir sessions. I sat on the phone talking with the designer as she unfolded what they were looking for and wanting to achieve, at first she was vague about the purpose but as the conversation progressed it became more and more clear what this project was about. It would have been 50 girls to start, with more each time someone was hired - obviously it would have been big $$$.



While I was flattered that they wanted me and in my head I was already creating the shopping list with the money I would earn I just couldn't allow my name to be associated with that kind of project!

What can I say? I HATE those kind of places. I've always said it's a wonder one hasn't been run down by an angry house wife! It's a pathetic use of sexuality. I have no respect for those type of operations and would never want to be associated with one. 



When I see one, all I see is sadness. Sadness for young girls who don't see enough value in who they are not what they've got. Sadness for wives who are trying to figure out why their husband has 3 coffee charges a day only to learn that Wednesday is "wet T-shirt day". Sadness for men who were never taught the vale of a lady and her worth as daughter of God. And thats pretty much what I told the designer. In hindsight maybe I should have kept those thoughts to myself and just left it at no but I get really passionate and often forget where the off switch is. The funny thing was, she totally agreed and said she would never let her boyfriend go to one of those places. Why oh why did she associate with them? Money will never be worth your integrity! 

So there you have it... I said no.




18 comments:

  1. it comforts me that you hold the sanctity of woman so highly.

    it saddens me that so many think that engaging in such work/activities does not degrade women at all.

    we women are indeed of divine worth!!

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  2. I must be sheltered...I didn't even know there was such a place! That is sad. I adore your integrity!

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  3. As a man, I'm lost for words on this one!
    It does sound kinda tacky to me, but hardly unique in the use of sexual attraction to promote a product. I'd say if you took a poll on this one, most male photographers would not have a problem doing the job, most women might.

    Not sure myself.

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  4. Good for you! It's excellent that you held to your values involving your business. Regardless of how much, you would have eventually regretted sacrificing your morals for money.

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  5. Reading this just made me add you to my list of must-read blogs... good for you.

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  6. Good for you Leah!!!! I haven't been in a situation like that, but I believe it would be hard to say no and I'm proud of you for doing it!

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  7. ALWAYS keep your values. Good for you!

    I've said no to business when I feel there isn't a personality match or they appear to be toooo difficult to work with.

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  8. So I have always enjoyed reading your blog, and love your insight and point of view. But now I just love you! I am so proud of you for saying no, when I'm sure it wasn't easy turning down something where you would earn so much, but you realized what the real cost would be. I respect you so much for this! Thanks for being brave enough to say no and brave enough to share it!

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  9. I just found your blog today and can I just tell you how awesome you are!!! Yes, of course, I don't officially know you yet but what I do know is that you are awesome because you stand up for what you believe in. I love that! What a great example. And you will be blessed with even better business opportunities for it. :) I would love to chat once in awhile and get to know you better. Always love meeting other photographers! Have a great day.

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  10. Thanks Rebekah! I'm excited to get to know you too! =)

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  11. Why are my own comments not posting? Grr. It's really annoying being so technically UN-inclined!

    Thanks all but seriously it wasn't a hard decision. I totally know any of you would do the exact same thing! Maybe your thing wouldn't be a coffee stand but whatever it is... You would stand for your values.

    Rebekah - Looking forward to getting to know you too! =)

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  12. Good for you!! If more people acted according to what they knew was right, there wouldn't be places like that anymore.

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  13. Good for you! Those places are gross!

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  14. I too have turned a few clients away because they weren't a good fit for they photography I do and I knew they wouldn't be happy and it would be a constant fight or I've had a few young girls want boudoir photos taken to give to their boyfriends and after explaining to them that it would probably be an expensive regret on their part and that I wouldn't feel right doing the photos and tell them if they want the photos to go to someone else and I feel good about my decision.
    I recently read an article where a photographer turned away a 2 women who wanted her to shoot their commitment ceremony. She said it was against her beliefs and they took her to court for discrimination. The court is siding with the women and the photographer is still fighting this! This make me afraid to tell people no :-/

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  15. JP - I've heard that same story too and was hesitant for a about a second thinking maybe I should just say no with out an explanation. But the passion side of me who always talks before thinking it out won. ;)

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  16. I knew I was going to like it here!! Tons of respect coming from this way!! Thanks for the example.

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